By Ann K Addley Celebrating Bi+ Visibility Day on September 23 has beengrowing in popularity since its inception in 1999. This year,despite various levels of COVID-19 lockdown, the need toconnect and celebrate our community was stronger than ever.A collective of bi+ organizers across New Zealand and Australia decided to pool their resources and create the…
Serving Up Some BACon!
By Fire Sia The Philippines is a small country in Southeast Asia that has seenmany firsts in the world, including the very first Pride March in Asiaback in 1994. During that time, the LGBT community was labeledas the gay and lesbian community with very little recognition ofbisexuals. Since then, the struggle for bi visibility has…
Panned Attempts at Dating
By Tiggy Upland “In 2000, I went on a date to a Nader rally with someoneI met on PlanetOut.com. As we waited to get in, she informed me that she almost refused to date me because myprofile said I liked Sting. OK, kinda rude. She followed itup by saying she was afraid that there would…
Love Happens
By Sara Bardhan For quite some time I treated my bisexuality with a benign attitude. Convinced it could never yield anything but hardshipsfor me, I had directed my care and nurture toward relationshipsthat would expectantly bring to me matrimony, motherhood,and love. Even as a child of nine or a pubescent teen in school, Iknew which…
Bring on the Cats
By C.K. Larsen You should know that I am terrible at dating. I’m in my thirtiesnow and haven’t entered the dating scene for at least ten years.Thankfully, I’ve been married to a wonderful, supportive husband, who loves me for who I am. I suffer from depression andanxiety, so large crowds and socializing with new people…
Finding Love with a Compass and Without
By Deb Morley Those who have known me only the past seventeen years know me as a bi woman in a long-term, monogamous relationship. You may even know me as married. Those who have known me the previous seventeen years know more. I was once asked, “What do you look for in a partner?” I…
When You’ve Sworn off LDR, then COVID Comes Along
By Lara Z During early 2019 I was riding high. I had a new book out sharing some of my experiences as a bi woman in an open marriage (but fictionally). I had agirlfriend and was going to visit her for a whole week while doing the book’s West Coast tour. I’d be appearing at…
I am not your Manic Pixie Dream Girl
By Martine Mussies Dating is difficult, complicated, messy, and awkward for everyone, I assume. But autism adds an extra layer of turmoil to that already unstable cocktail. Especially if you’re bisexual—and those last two identities often go hand in hand. Still, relatively little has been published about these intersections. In this essay I would thus…
2 poems by k.l.zelaya
Ode to the Emotionally Unavailable She kisses me like we aren’tin the men’s bathroomat a drag show. Her touch is so lightI wonder if she knowswhat she is doing. She breathes into melike she was never gone. King Princess and Hayley Kiyoko serenade us.The beginning of each songis the crashing of a wave,and we are…
how I find it
By Nest Valorfixer our bodies whisperhonest need.I have too muchlove to carry.I was told I’d be ignoredfor my shamelessfat body.my belly only knows truth.my thighs are blatant. and Love knocks on my doorevery day.I swing the door openand see shebrought a wild ideafluttering with vibrancy.I’m listening to the new songshe left on my doorstep.I’m learning…