Dear Tiggy, I am 16 years old and I recently came out to my family as bisexual. My parents said they were supportive but their behavior towards me has totally changed since then. My father – who, by the way, hasn’t really been very tolerant towards gays – can’t seem to look me in the…
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Ask Tiggy: Intersection: Age, Pt. 2
Dear Tiggy, I started questioning my sexual orientation when I was 15 years old. When I came out to my mom as a bisexual, she said it was just a phase. Since I had a serious boyfriend at that time, I sort of forgot about my bisexuality and didn’t think about it for years, until…
Ask Tiggy: Intersection: Religion/Spirituality
Dear Tiggy, I realized I was bisexual during my sophomore year of high school but I never told anyone. I didn’t want people to assume it was just a phase so I promised myself I would wait until I found a girl who was worth coming out for. I am now a senior in high…
Ask Tiggy: Intersection: Geography
Dear Tiggy, I recently discovered that I’m bisexual. However, I live in Pakistan. Here, sexuality is hardly discussed and, in many cases, is considered taboo. I want to know more about myself and my sexuality. Can you please advise me on how to do that in a safe, open way? -Nora Dear Nora, Yes: read! My October…
Ask Tiggy: Intersection: Age
Dear Tiggy, Starting in my adolescent years, I experienced only “heterosexual” feelings. When I was older, I began to feel attracted to other females as well. I have only been in a handful of relationships, all with males, but I’ve had a few sexual encounters with females and would like to have a same-sex relationship….
Ask Tiggy: Mental Health
Dear Tiggy, I just transferred to a new college and have experienced a huge amount of discrimination by both the straight and the gay communities. As a musical theatre major, I am used to a lot of tolerance. Here, however, I have been told that I must be overly promiscuous, flaky, illegitimate, and a burden…
Ask Tiggy: The Bi *Trans* Connection
Dear Tiggy, My local bi support groups are divided by gender. I’m bi and trans, and a bit uncomfortable with picking which one to attend. What would you do, Tiggy? – Mack Dear Mack, As stoked as I am to hear that you have even one local bi support group, never mind more than one, it…
Ask Tiggy: Bisexual Enough?
Dear Tiggy, For a couple years now, I’ve known that I’m not straight and I think I’m bisexual, but I want to know for sure whether I’m bisexual or gay. My confusion lies in the fact that I’m attracted to both men and women but I seem to find more women attractive. I do still…
Ask Tiggy: What Happens Next, pt. 2
Dear Tiggy, Just came out today as bisexual to my therapist and one friend. Not sure where to go from here. Business as usual? –Jenn Dear Jenn, People come at bisexuality from all sorts of directions. Some assume they are straight until they feel otherwise; others try identifying as lesbian or gay until they realize…
Ask Tiggy: What Happens Next? Pt. 1
Dear Tiggy, I just got out of a seven-year relationship with a man, in large part because I want to understand my sexuality. I’ve been madly in love with women, but have never even kissed a girl. I’m quite good at heterosexual relationships but I have never really dated, and certainly have never dated a…